Yin in Chinese medicine refers to all those aspects of the body that are moistening and cooling. Yang describes the body’s functions that are warming and activating. Yin is what makes you want to receive sexual energy from another person and yang is what makes you want to initiate sex with your partner. People with too little yin often don’t feel sexy or have a poor self-image. People with too little yang are often too tired to want to have sex. So good sex means not just working on your partnership but also working on yourself and your own balance of yin and yang.
- Forge close emotional and energetic bonds without losing sight of yourself;
- Stay true to your own ideas and values, even as you engage with someone else’s;
- Agree without losing yourself, and disagree without feeling alienated;
- Empathize with and support a partner who is having a tough time without getting pulled down by or taking on the situation yourself;
- Become open to nurturing and support from a partner without spilling over into neediness; and
- Share your whole self, and help your lover do the same.
You can find out if you have too little yin or too little yang by taking this quiz and the book helps gives you lots of hints for getting your yin and yang back into balance both individually and as a couple because the key to staying centered and stable in a relationship is being able to find balance in yourself?There is a circus act where one person does all sorts of tricks while supported by a partner. Do you suppose the “flier” learned to do a handstand by doing one atop another person? She most certainly did not. She worked it out on her own before she ever involved the other person.
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