Here is a meditative, stress-relieving exercise that you can do with a partner. It’s meant to be relaxing and it also puts focus on closeness, harmony within oneself, relaxation, intimacy, and a feeling of oneness with another person. It’s called Morning and Evening Meditation and you can find out more about it in Chapter 10 of Sex Again: Recharging Your Libido.
Here’s how to do it:
Begin with a bit of foreplay to warm-up to get to the point where there’s enough lubrication to allow for penetration. Use additional lubricant as needed. Embrace in the missionary position. The man should penetrate and use just enough movement to maintain an erection, but not enough to ejaculate. Actually, it doesn’t even matter if you maintain an erection—once you are in, both of you can just hold still. Just experience being there.
And that’s all there is to it. Continue for as long as you both like—just a few minutes is fine—sharing and enjoying the stillness between you.