As months go by: seasons come and go, transitions happen, and with that – so does change. It’s not uncommon to feel a bit like we have been in the spin cycle of the wash. We are constantly unlearning and re-learning how to be in the world. Because we are human, we sometimes get lost in our own expectations of what should be happening and all the things that are wrong in our lives. These frustrations and judgments cloud our vision and it becomes difficult to see the value and the purpose of where we are now.
Many of us are in, what I like to call, The In-Between Space. This is the space between the old and the new. This place is can feel rather frightening and many of us feel that we have no frame of reference for moving forward. To bring us back to center, I offer you some sage advice.
Originally these tidbits of wisdom came from the popular column Dear Abby. Originally, they were referred to as The Ten Commandments For A Long And Peaceful Life! Over the years some of the commandments have changed, but these ones always resonated with me, so perhaps they will with you too. They may help us to regain our perspective and our humor as we navigate these changing times. It is also quite possible that these tips will add Life to our living and some years to our life. Enjoy!
The 10 Commandments of Living
- Thou shall not worry, for worry is the most unproductive of all human activities.
- Thou shall not be fearful, for most of the things we fear never come to pass.
- Thou shall not cross bridges before you come to them, for no one yet has succeeded in accomplishing this feat. (This one is my personal favorite!)
- Thou shall face each problem as it comes. You can only handle one at a time anyway. You shall not carry grudges, for they are the heaviest of all life’s burdens
- Thou shall not take problems to bed with you, for they make very poor bedfellows.
- Thou shall not borrow other people’s problems. They can better care for them than you can.
- Thou shall not try to relive yesterday for good or ill, it is forever gone. Concentrate on what is happening in your life and be Happy Now!
- Thou shall be a good listener, for only when you listen do you hear ideas different from your own. It is hard to learn something new when you are talking, and some people do know more than you do.
- Thou shall not become “bogged down” by frustration, for 90% of it is rooted in self-pity and will only interfere with positive action.
- Thou shall count thy blessings, never overlooking the small ones, for a lot of small blessings add up to big ones.