When one feels the helplessness that fertility may have brought into their lives, their relationships, their homes, their hearts: what should they think? How should they respond? How should they move forward?
Forrest Church, a Unitarian Universalist minister, once wrote that historically, in Greek dramas the crisis was not some outside event that caused the hero’s (or heroine’s) downfall. The crisis, rather, was the response. Church writes, “What happens to us doesn’t turn our life story into a tragedy. It is how we respond to what happens to us that shapes the outcome of our lives.”
I love this thought. I know it’s been presented before, in different ways, but I think this way of putting it rings truer than most. I also find it apropos given what happens in the group. A system of support and dialogue provides group members with a sense of community. This is what makes the group as supportive but also as productive as it is.